Today we’re pleased to welcome author Rachel Sparks to The Novel Approach, on the tour for her new novel Give Love a Chance. Enjoy Rachel’s guest post, then be sure to click on the Rafflecopter widget below to enter for the chance to win an e-copy of the book.
I want to take this opportunity to tell why I wrote Giving Love A Chance.
Two and half years does not seem that long. For me it was a lifetime. Between the ages of 19 and 22, I was in an abusive marriage. I was abused physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually. I was raped and my son was conceived from that rape.
I was not able to tell my story until now. I want people to see and understand abuse from the survivor’s point of view. Yes, I mean survivor; we are not victims. Writing this book became a therapeutic endeavor for me; and part of the healing process was using my name for one of the characters. I hope this book helps people to understand how an abuser works.
As a survivor I can tell you that ignoring the words spoken around me can be a very hard thing to do. The ones that hurt the most are when people say things like “why don’t they leave? They could just walk away…” or “I’d never be in a relationship like that…” Until someone has been in a relationship that becomes abusive most people do not understand the complexities of it.
As an author I have the unique ability to help people understand the complicated relationship between an abuser and a survivor. I wrote “Giving Love A Chance” to help people understand what the survivor goes through before, during and after the abusive relationship.
That finding the strength to walk away does not mean that the survivor is okay. I wanted my readers to grasp the fact that survivors are much like soldiers or police or firemen or nurses or car accident victims… or anyone that has gone thru traumatic or violent events.
Survivors have triggers. Words, actions, smells, places… they all act as triggers that can cause a flight or fight response. For someone to trust again… to find someone to love… to open themselves up to the possibility of being hurt again takes a giant leap of faith. They have already been in one relationship where their trust in humanity has been violated. “Giving Love A Chance” tells the story of one man and his struggle to find the faith to trust not only a potential life partner but himself. While every relationship is unique, those that have survived an abusive relationship will find elements that resonate with them. For those survivors… I wanted you to know you are not alone. That somebody understands. I wanted to tell my story.
Please remember as you read this book that a person in a domestic abusive marriage or relationship still loves that person. The abuser gets into the person’s head and they can convince them to do things they normally wouldn’t do. What might seem abnormal to you is normal to them.
If you are in an abusive relationship, you are not alone…there is a way out.
John Burrows had a wonderful husband who loved him. The job of his dreams. He had a loving family, loyal friends and adoring fans. His life was everything a man could hope for until it fell apart. Society says it does not happen, that it is all a lie, so John hid the truth from everyone until it was almost too late.
The truth was revealed…
Ben Tensley thought that meeting your soulmate on the most traumatic night of his life was hard. He discovered that watching the man you love try and heal in the middle of chaos was even harder. Ben and John struggle to find solid ground…until John’s nightmare returns.
Will John be strong enough to give love a chance?
This book deals with domestic abuse. I, myself am a survivor of domestic abuse.
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Excerpt: John looked down at their hands and then laced his fingers with Ben’s.
Ben placed his hand lightly on John’s check. He stared deeply into John’s eyes. Ben could see the pain no matter how hard John tried to hide it. “Are you going to let me in John?”
John swallowed and licked his lips.
Ben leaned in closer and closer to John. He was so close that John could feel the hot breath against his lips. He closed his eyes as he felt Ben press his mouth firmly, offering no resistance. He let Ben explore the depths of his mouth with his tongue. Ben knew this was more than just a connection. This was what he had been yearning for all these years. John was exactly what he needed.
John put his hands on Ben’s chest and pushed him away. He could feel his heart pounding and hear it in his ears. “Wait… stop… please.”
Ben raised his hands and moved back. “I’m sorry, I thought you…”
John got up and walked over and placed his hands on a nearby table with his head down. He was trying to calm down. He felt fear gripping him.
Ben got up and walked over to the table. “Hey…”
John stood up. “Could you just back up please? I need some breathing room.”
Ben raised his hands and backed up. “I’m sorry.” Ben could have kicked himself. He had taken it too far and he knew it. At this rate he would never have a chance for a relationship with John.
John picked up a bottle of wine and poured himself a glass. He drained the entire glass in a matter of minutes.
“You want me to leave?”
John ignored Ben and filled his glass again, draining it quickly before slamming it on the table. “Hell no! I just need some space dammit!”
Ben walked around the table and took the wine bottle. “Look, I’m not going to stand here watch you drink an entire bottle of wine and cuss me out.”
John tried to reach for his wine bottle. “Then leave!”
Ben wouldn’t let him have the wine bottle. “I am not going to let you start drinking when you feel nervous around me. I’m not going to rape you. You wanted me to stop, and I did.”
John was curling his hands into fists.
BIO: Rachel Sparks grew up in South Carolina. With a degree in Early Childhood education and one in social work, she brings those skills to the table to write stories involving current social issues, a sprinkling of romance and powerful story lines.
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